“I learned to
fight in a fight, so excuse me when I don’t give up.”-Life Confession of How I Got
Here
“It’s funny,
we’re told to be strong, independent women but when we fell as little girls
everyone ran to our rescue while heads turned away when a little boy fell.”-I’m not upset…I’m just
explaining the strength of my existence…
“Independence
has its perks and its harshness but nevertheless…find its strength.”-Independence’s Reality
“Ut-Oh…where
is this topic going to go????”
I know that’s what you’re thinking…but I also
know…YOU want to go with me!!!
“Girl YOU
Crazy”
This
topic roamed my thoughts and words during GYC’s 1st interview on THE
IDECLAIR SHOW back in February! If you missed it…click here!
However…these thoughts were
“Birthed” while writing “Naysayers Say What!?”, which was also during the
“Don’t Take the Elevator” Series, as I began to
think on/acknowledge/realize/recognize…and understand the fight of who I am, and
where I am today...on paper for other people to see.
However,
As I let these thoughts marinate…I investigated a
little deeper…to go a little wider than myself!
And
I realized when it all began (well…for some of us)…
…the defining moment when us girls would have to
learn how to fight…in a fight.
Take strength from a place within and apply it to
the surface!
So, here is
the GYC/Lauren Alicia Quick Version:
Little GYCGirl…
falls/trips/has some type of accident and everyone runs over to tend to her
needs…maybe even making it out to be bigger than what it seems…
Then
time goes past…GYCGirl… is a little older, pays attention a little more and
notices a little boy fall and he begins to cry, his mother pauses, looks at
him, QUICKLY looks away and says…
“He’s a boy…he will be alright” and she carries on.
He gets up, and everything
is alright!
Right? Well,
not for me!
When I distinguished the
difference, it was time for me to realize and understand that the only fighting
I was going to do in and for my life… was the fight that people felt/decided I SHOULD be fighting for and the
rest…well… I’m on my own!
And I had to be okay with
that…the “I’m on my own” part of course!
Why was he
going to be okay and I needed all that attention???
Well, lets look more at the
difference...
It became clear that pain is pain until you
decide how to cope with it or it’s decided for you through attention… and I was quickly being
taught through attention and unsure if that was the lesson to learn.
But…
As
I grew older and learned of my dreams that were NOT given to me by People, I
saw more pain and misunderstood
rejection because it wasn’t the same as the little girl who fell and
everyone ran to her rescue…now the strength within is beginning to show me my options and let me
know it’s all my decision…strength was simply there to defend it!
So…
Here are my
options:
+ Every time you fall will you look/expect
someone to rescue you like you have no hope?
Or
+ Will you
decide to get back up because everything is and will be alright…BECAUSE YOU ARE
a fighter that is also designed to live as a winner (Because YOU Are a winner as well)…and laying on the ground
(mentally) waiting for someone to help you…is to act as though you have no hope
and strength is not in you to get the job done?
Now that YOU
have your options…what are you going to do Miss GYCGirl???
And in
realizing the strength within…there was MY OWN independence!
Independence is what’s left
when you realize you can’t be dependent on other people to make your dreams
happen or walk through open doors for you…the dream can be there but the action
to decide to go and live it…is done by you!
Excerpt from Naysayers
Say What?!:
Every time someone disagreed
about who I wanted to be “when I grow up”,
I proved to myself that they were wrong, which built a foundation and strengthened my passion to go for My OWN
dreams if and when EVERY, everybody says, “Girl YOU Crazy, it will never
happen, and she thinks she is a
______________....hmph.”
I had to decide that if I
wanted these dreams of mine…it was going to take a fight,
Since Naysayers use fighting
words!
GYC
Personal Thought Rant…before I close…
Learning
to fight in a fight for my dreams, the real, unfiltered, true ME was and still
is the best way for me to have gained strength, and knowledge of who I am as
the definition for me to live. I don’t take anything for my journey and where
it will lead but in order for me to keep pressing, I have to know my foundation
and reflect on it in moments of weakness, moments of strength, moments of
confusion and uncertainness to know that I was built to fight, and made to win.
I think the reason some of us miss this is…we don’t realize/recognize/acknowledge
that information as part of our definition,
neglecting to give it any of our actions.
Almost done…
Last
Thoughts:
When strength is taught in a fight and WE come out the WINNER over and
over again…our strength gets stronger and stronger, we learn the perks and
pluses of being independent…getting/receiving
what we want and need, only standing for what we deserve and pushing through
its harshness…you know the haters/naysayers/those that need to understand how
to allow their strength to assist them in getting/receiving what is for them...taking their focus and negative words off of us!!
Can I get a witness??? HELLO!
And
I will leave you with these GYC Quotes:
“Pay attention
to your fight because there is where your strength will grow stronger.”-GYC
“We are always
one decision away from learning more about who we are and where we are destined
to go. Know how strength was taught to you.”-GYC
“Independence
has its perks and its harshness but mix it with humility and understanding and
you will decide to only see the perks!”-GYC
Defeating
Crazy with Courageous,
Lauren
Alicia, GYCGirl…
